Regrettably we
still live in an era when some among us choose to “strain at a gnat and swallow
a camel” when it comes to racial issues. They choose to allow slight
physiological variations to be an impediment to acceptance of others as part of
a common human family. It should be an affront to all of us when bad things
happen to good people, but especially when it happens in our own backyard.
About a month
ago, a good friend of mine in Boise shared a disturbing and awkward incident he
experienced. After being invited with five other friends to a private party, he
was turned away after arriving, because he’s black. While there are worse
things than being uninvited after arriving at a party, the incident was
symptomatic of an underlying insecurity or animus based on race.
As my friend
recounted the event, “The underpinnings of unfair discrimination are obvious.”
Indeed they are obvious, and they speak volumes about the dearth of character
and lack of humanity of the one who objected to his presence. My friend,
Michael Strickland, who gave me permission to use his name and relate his
experience, elaborated, “Racism is a cancer - it spreads.” Indeed it can,
unless we proactively work to curtail it.
I genuinely
hope everyone perusing this column is as repulsed by the insensitivity, abject
stupidity, and classless actions of one person against Michael as I am. I would
further hope that each of you forward this column to anyone you know who may
manifest similar tendencies to ostracize, diminish, or exclude anyone based on
something as superficial as physiological differences. Unlike some who harbor a somewhat fatalistic view of
racists, presuming that they cannot be changed, I will forever be a believer in
the fundamental goodness and teachability of mankind, regardless of
socio-economic or cultural shortcomings that have stunted their growth
regarding racist behavior.
Sometimes there’s a natural
revulsion to “sensitivity training,” whether of a racial or sexist nature. Yet
I am convinced that we all need more of it. Not to the point where we dance
around and avoid issues, as Eric Holder, Attorney General once accused us of
all being “cowards” for ignoring issues of racism. Rather, to the end that
increased sensitivity to the minor differences that distinguish us are
sometimes used by the inhuman among us as wedges to separate us from those who
are different, rather than as a glue to our common humanity.
Another way to put this
issue in context is to look at other differences. What idiocy would be
manifested by someone if they chose to discriminate based on eye color? Or hair
color? Or any other physiological difference? Would we not collectively and
individually look with scorn upon someone who did that, and see them as a
social illiterates and cretins? So why should that be any more idiotic than
taking a similar discriminatory
approach to skin color? So what! We have differences! And thank heavens we do,
for otherwise we would be a plain and boring race!
Regrettably, we observe with
regularity, bigoted attitudes manifested against people of different religions,
as well. Is not religious bigotry as dehumanizing and ugly a human trait as
racism? When we make categorical expressions of disdain toward a particular
religion or the adherents to that religion, we’re manifesting the same
superficial, classless, and bereft-of-character generalizations that
characterize racism.
The other night my son asked
me what I thought of a certain Christian denomination. I told him I thought
they were wonderful. After all how can we, unless we are bigots, be critical of
any religious group that seeks to bring adherents closer to God, and expects of
them to be more Christ like? When we look for the good, we will find it. If we
choose to focus on negative experiences or people, we lose depth and quality
from our character, and like the racist, “strain at a gnat and swallow a camel.”
If we’re going to overcome
these ugly human traits of racism and bigotry, it takes work on both sides:
increased understanding and humanity on the part of perpetrators to heal their
hearts, and an increased sense of forgiveness and less harboring of a victim
mentality on the part of those who may have been wronged. Both racism and
bigotry are scourges on our society, and like Michael observes, are like “cancer”
that can spread, unless each of us takes remedial steps to eradicate them.
After all, in
spite of any political, religious, racial, or cultural differences, are we not
all ultimately brothers and sisters in this mortal sojourn? As such, we may all
have our little "sibling spats" periodically, but the big picture
still should always and ultimately come down to mutual love, concern, and
respect, for each other, and all of humanity.